Everyone has an opinion on discipline. But who is right? In the end, I think we all have an inner instinct that we should listen to. Whether it is your children, your animals, babysitting others' kids, or walking into Wal-Mart, there is a line for the acceptable and unacceptable.
How do you know when the line is crossed by someone else? When is it ok to speak up to someone? And furthermore, are you confident that you are right? As a mother of a 2 year old, I struggle with discipline daily, of course. And I have never had anyone say something to me about being in the wrong, so it is not at all like that kind of thought in my head. But I wonder what methods people have tried, have failed at, and have worked? Lets face it, we can list on 5 fingers parents we have seen or know that try and fail at discipline. And then there are the parents that are admired for how "together" they are. I have truly lost sleep over what they are doing... So let's have some share time, a show-and-tell for parenting if you will. Failures, Methods, and Successes are welcome here!
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Playgroups?
Today, well not really- I lie. Retry...
Lately, I have been thinking about all the friends I have that have children. Almost all of them are of different ages and stages in their young lives. But, isn't part of socialization- espcially for SAHM's- including our children in different experiences and kids of different stages??
Online, there a millions, literally, of mom-friendly websites and groups to join. It doesn't matter if you choose to stay at home with your kids or choose to be a working mom, it makes no difference how old you are currently or at what age you became a mom, it also does not matter where on this earth you live. I have joined a few of these groups and sites. Most of which are extremely helpful and fun to explore. As a mom, I can always go to one of those groups and post a question out there and know that I am getting a response relatively quickly from another mom who has at one point in time had the same questions. These sites are also great for ideas of things to do with your kids. In the summer, one imagines days filled with outside play time. However, I live in Texas, and play time doesn't happen until 8 pm usually, or in quick bursts that last about a half hour after already using a half bottle of sun screen! It is nice to see what other parents are doing to fill the days and provide a stimualting environment for kids learning.
I am still frustrated! I have lots of "friends" online, and a lot of them live in the same area-ish of town. But why do I feel like I never see them and that my daughter has to re-meet those children every time we get together? Online groups all have a tab on their page for making playgroups and mommy groups. I cannot think of one that has actually happened though.
My question to you, world wide web, is this:
Dallas/ Fort Worth area moms should be able to set aside time relatively often for their kids to play and then moms can chat, right? Say, maybe once a month? And we should be able to do it for cheap or even the magical word- FREE, right? And it shouldn't matter how old your child is, or how old mommy is for that matter, I would beg the question, IS ONCE A MONTH OR TWO, TOO HARD TO ORGANIZE AND MAKE HAPPEN?
Comments to this are necessary, world. I really truly want to know. I am more than happy to be the organizer of the group. My new, current goal is to find places, ways, ideas to make this happen. I will let you know WWW! Until next time,
Still a "Scattered Mommy"
Lately, I have been thinking about all the friends I have that have children. Almost all of them are of different ages and stages in their young lives. But, isn't part of socialization- espcially for SAHM's- including our children in different experiences and kids of different stages??
Online, there a millions, literally, of mom-friendly websites and groups to join. It doesn't matter if you choose to stay at home with your kids or choose to be a working mom, it makes no difference how old you are currently or at what age you became a mom, it also does not matter where on this earth you live. I have joined a few of these groups and sites. Most of which are extremely helpful and fun to explore. As a mom, I can always go to one of those groups and post a question out there and know that I am getting a response relatively quickly from another mom who has at one point in time had the same questions. These sites are also great for ideas of things to do with your kids. In the summer, one imagines days filled with outside play time. However, I live in Texas, and play time doesn't happen until 8 pm usually, or in quick bursts that last about a half hour after already using a half bottle of sun screen! It is nice to see what other parents are doing to fill the days and provide a stimualting environment for kids learning.
I am still frustrated! I have lots of "friends" online, and a lot of them live in the same area-ish of town. But why do I feel like I never see them and that my daughter has to re-meet those children every time we get together? Online groups all have a tab on their page for making playgroups and mommy groups. I cannot think of one that has actually happened though.
My question to you, world wide web, is this:
Dallas/ Fort Worth area moms should be able to set aside time relatively often for their kids to play and then moms can chat, right? Say, maybe once a month? And we should be able to do it for cheap or even the magical word- FREE, right? And it shouldn't matter how old your child is, or how old mommy is for that matter, I would beg the question, IS ONCE A MONTH OR TWO, TOO HARD TO ORGANIZE AND MAKE HAPPEN?
Comments to this are necessary, world. I really truly want to know. I am more than happy to be the organizer of the group. My new, current goal is to find places, ways, ideas to make this happen. I will let you know WWW! Until next time,
Still a "Scattered Mommy"
Friday, July 9, 2010
Today, I was online reading. Of course!
One of my friends had posted about how hard it was to have lost a baby, but that instead of continuing to hurt, she prayed. She prayed for her friends and others that might be moved by her story. Turns out, that it may not have been their time to have been blessed in that manor, but every single friend she prayed for has had great blessings since. Some of those friend are expecting ehir own bundles of joy!
Lessons learned from my sweet friend:
1) It is never good to hold onto hurt and pain
2) Time to totally pay it forward. We never know who or what needs our thoughts and prayers at any given time!
3) Blessings come in multitudes of form. Never be so narrow minded that we miss the blessings right in front of our own eyes.
4) It truly is time to surround my own life with a supportive atmosphere and postivity! Time to stop living in a way that constantly leads to bad moods, temper flairs, and such negativity. Time to end the day with a smile on my face because I look forward to my life!
I am so thankful that I saw that sad but encouraging note from a friend!
By the way: she has her own new bundle of joy on the way... He works in mysterious ways y'all!
One of my friends had posted about how hard it was to have lost a baby, but that instead of continuing to hurt, she prayed. She prayed for her friends and others that might be moved by her story. Turns out, that it may not have been their time to have been blessed in that manor, but every single friend she prayed for has had great blessings since. Some of those friend are expecting ehir own bundles of joy!
Lessons learned from my sweet friend:
1) It is never good to hold onto hurt and pain
2) Time to totally pay it forward. We never know who or what needs our thoughts and prayers at any given time!
3) Blessings come in multitudes of form. Never be so narrow minded that we miss the blessings right in front of our own eyes.
4) It truly is time to surround my own life with a supportive atmosphere and postivity! Time to stop living in a way that constantly leads to bad moods, temper flairs, and such negativity. Time to end the day with a smile on my face because I look forward to my life!
I am so thankful that I saw that sad but encouraging note from a friend!
By the way: she has her own new bundle of joy on the way... He works in mysterious ways y'all!
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Did I just become "that" mom?
My mistake for taking a 2 year old into a grocery store not strapped into a buggy! Whoops! She did ok, until we got to the check out line, and from there craziness insued. To top it off, when I finally cuaght up to her, I got punched in the eye. With witnesses talking about it- loudly! Before I realized what was going on, I smacked her back. I mean straight out of auto-reaction! Not even a blink in between. BOOM! And then I realize I just smacked my kid, in public, in front of other people as witnesses, and no matter what ... she still won that round. I feel like such a screw up of a parent, everyone saw it, if I am that flustered with one, thank God I dont have 2. It makes me stop, again, and remember how things happen for a reason. If we listen well enough, God shows us signs quite clearly. Today's example includes, just when I think I might have caught a little baby fever, I get punched in the eye- and LITERALLY **poof* baby fever is gone. Clearly, we are so not ready for another baby.
At the end of that show down, I still haven't bought my milk!
At the end of that show down, I still haven't bought my milk!
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
My very first post!
Today has been a long day. I wasn't really all that busy physically. However, my mind has been a million places- hence the name "Scattered Mommy". All week or even maybe longer it is like my mind will not stop- hence, the blog. Even if nobody else reads this, which is probably my reality, at least I will have turned my thoughts into words on paper. Who knows, one day I may even share this with my husband and child. We shall see. But, first I will put my literary right foot in front of my literary left, and publish my first blog. Today's issues will be presented in list form- along with my thoughts and comments.
Here we go:
1. So here is my new decision. I am going to take a step back and re-examine my own self in the mirror. Instead of being jealous of the wonderful things that other people have or have going on in their lives, I am going to try to be more grateful for the things that I do have and that bring a smile to my face, be more content with my current standing, and try and let go of the mentality of always looking for the next big thing.
2. Current frustration- not living as active of a lifestyle with my daughter as I want. At the end of the day, I look back and go "aww we should have gone here, or done this" or "tomorrow, I want to make sure to do this". Then, tomorrow rolls around and I find it hard to get out of bed and actually get up and get going. I am sick of being in the not-good-but-not-bad parenting routine. Especially since I am starting to find FREE things to do around town that are age appropriate!
So, goal for tomorrow: Get out of bed and stop wasting time! Live the life I want to live. Set the good example. Do not wait for other people to come to me, instead I will go to them!
Talk to you tomorrow world wide web!
Until then, Still Scattered
Here we go:
1. So here is my new decision. I am going to take a step back and re-examine my own self in the mirror. Instead of being jealous of the wonderful things that other people have or have going on in their lives, I am going to try to be more grateful for the things that I do have and that bring a smile to my face, be more content with my current standing, and try and let go of the mentality of always looking for the next big thing.
2. Current frustration- not living as active of a lifestyle with my daughter as I want. At the end of the day, I look back and go "aww we should have gone here, or done this" or "tomorrow, I want to make sure to do this". Then, tomorrow rolls around and I find it hard to get out of bed and actually get up and get going. I am sick of being in the not-good-but-not-bad parenting routine. Especially since I am starting to find FREE things to do around town that are age appropriate!
So, goal for tomorrow: Get out of bed and stop wasting time! Live the life I want to live. Set the good example. Do not wait for other people to come to me, instead I will go to them!
Talk to you tomorrow world wide web!
Until then, Still Scattered
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